Dear JQ,
Girl, please don't be so hard on yourself. Take a deep breath and look at all you've been through and have overcome. These are mere stepping stones and pebbles in the road you're facing right now. Hold on and have faith that everything is aligning for you, even as you type this.
This past decade has shown you just how strong you are and that you can stand on your own two feet. And even though you may not be where you want to be, learn to accept this season for what it is because it is just a season and season's change. Remember years ago when you were married and you complained because you didn't get enough "me time" due to having a husband and kids to care for? Well, you got your wish, but you must also be careful what you speak because words have power! This season has offered you all the "me time" anyone could ask for, so enjoy it and continue to use it to your advantage.
Don't let how other people treat you change who you are. You are a beautiful, kind, loving, and caring woman. Your past did not break you so no need to try to break anyone else. Remember, hurting people, hurt people. You are in a much better place mentally and emotionally. Continue to share all of your love with the world and let them know who you are despite all of the adversity you have faced in your life. You are not your past or your mistakes; please do not ever forget that.
Heartache is inevitable and we will all cross that bridge at some point in our lives. You have learned that with each man you had hopes for, the heartache has been easier to handle because you're stronger and wiser now and life's lessons have proven to be invaluable. You just need to know when enough is enough and let go without looking back. I'm not judging you, just reminding you, because I love you. Now, keep loving and don't hold back or do it with limitations. As I told you earlier, heartache is inevitable and there is a chance you will get hurt, but when you love, you also take a risk. Love is a beautiful thing and you love freely which is so gracious of you. In this life, we should always choose love, so keep loving!
Some food for thought, pay attention to the folks that think of you in the good and the bad. To the folks that include you, that make time for you, that show they care. Keep your circle small and worthy of someone like yourself. You have so much to offer so be wise with the company you keep. Always remember these words...
"Those that want to, make a way. Those that don't want to, make an excuse."
You will have very good days and you will have days where you want to cry because you miss someone or you're tired of being single or mad at the world, etc,. In those moments, just stop and breathe, go for a walk, or pray, but allow yourself to feel whatever emotion it is you're feeling. You are human and are entitled to your feelings because they are valid. However, you will need to pick yourself up and remind yourself that you are worthy and better than what is behind you. Chin up and keep moving forward even if it's with tears in your eyes.
By the way, I am so proud of how you care for yourself. You eat healthier and exercise regularly; keep putting yourself first! Always remember, the days when you don't feel like it, are probably the days you need it most, so keep pushing forward. Keep setting goals to hold yourself accountable; you'll thank yourself later. Make the time now and let's pray that your latter years reward you. Keep doing all of the things that you love and make you happy; don't waste time being sad or uncertain about anything. Follow your gut instinct; it's usually right. I pray the path opens up for you and that your career takes a turn for the better. You deserve to be appreciated in every aspect of life, so go get yours! And that dream of writing a book...it's time!
Here's to a prosperous new decade for you, your family, and anyone who chooses to join you in love. Unfortunately, you will have to leave a few people behind in this upcoming season of life. You have to know, if they wanted to be with you, they would make it happen. All others are just making excuses and wasting your time; let them go. They'll see your growth later, trust me!
I love you, JQ and I am so proud of you! Do you and just be happy.
Love,
JQ
